Posted by wktd in scaesar.com
My boyfreinds son is a year old and just learned how to crawl. Im irritated cause it doesnt seem like he wants him to progress. he wont give him a sippy cup, has him sleep with him at night and will not let any other child touch him. He also is scared to and doesnt want to let him eat solids and doesnt try to teach him any new words. He babies him way to much and i dont know how to make him see tht he needs to learn to be a litle more independant
I would start doing it yourself but make it fun. I disagree with the person above me lol at 1 they should be doing wayyy more than crawling....My baby girl was walking at 8 months...talking at 5 thats early but still. With the talking just start teaching him words, get videos or toys whatever that are educational. Ask your bf lets start trying to feed him solids just a little bit...like you can incorporate it with the soft food. He needs to do that more for the kids development, maybe get him books on child development show him whats up lol.
Well, some kids don't crawl until that age, and there is nothing wrong with co-sleeping. You don't need to teach a child new words. You just need to talk, and they pick them up. However, refusing to give him food or a sippy cup, or let him play with other kids is stupidly over protective. It sounds as though your boyf just doesn't know where the boundaries are supposed to be. This is an issue between him and his ex, however. Suppose you suggest he does a bit of research and talk to his ex about what is age appropriate. Unfortunately you can't do anything directly. It's his child to parent how he wants to. Just think carefully before you have a child with him, eh?
Well, I agree with you that he needs to encouraging his son to progress. He should be teaching him to drink from a sippy cup and eat solid foods and learning new words. He should also to be trying to learn to walk and not just now learning to crawl. On the sleeping in their own bed issue, that's really up to the parents and the child and I see no problem with co-sleeping as long as the child is getting enough sleep. Eventually, he needs to be in his own bed, but one is still pretty young.
One thing that is worrying me a little is that he has just learned to crawl. Crawling normally isn't taught.......it's like an instinct that babies have and want to learn. Maybe your boyfriend thinks his son is progressing at a less rapid pace and doesn't want to push him too much. Both of my kids were walking by one, but I also know all kids develop at a different pace. I also agree that he needs social interaction.
However, with all that said........he's your boyfriend.......not your husband.......and this is his son.......not yours. Parents will raise their kids they way the want to and are often offended when someone interferes or disagrees with their methods.
Is he a stay at home dad? Where is the baby's mother? What is her role? All of these are factors that should be considered in understanding why he babies him and what you should do about it. Personally, I think you're right in your assessment on most of this, but not sure there's much you can do about it.
Sounds. Like. My. Mom. >:(
Isn't it frustrating? And in the end, it's their kid, and there's nothing you can do. It still pisses me off.
stay out of his parenting... it's his business... if you offer a suggestion and nothing's working, better keep your ideas to yourself. don't stress yourself out. now, if he asks for advice then by all means help him.
He's only a year old.
There is plenty of time for independence.
Let him "baby" the baby they grow up so fast!
Maybe a book about developmental stages would work
One thing that is worrying me a little is that he has just learned to crawl. Crawling normally isn't taught.......it's like an instinct that babies have and want to learn. Maybe your boyfriend thinks his son is progressing at a less rapid pace and doesn't want to push him too much. Both of my kids were walking by one, but I also know all kids develop at a different pace. I also agree that he needs social interaction.
However, with all that said........he's your boyfriend.......not your husband.......and this is his son.......not yours. Parents will raise their kids they way the want to and are often offended when someone interferes or disagrees with their methods.
Is he a stay at home dad? Where is the baby's mother? What is her role? All of these are factors that should be considered in understanding why he babies him and what you should do about it. Personally, I think you're right in your assessment on most of this, but not sure there's much you can do about it.
Isn't it frustrating? And in the end, it's their kid, and there's nothing you can do. It still pisses me off.
There is plenty of time for independence.
Let him "baby" the baby they grow up so fast!
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